Audio: Roy guest on the S3xplosion! Podcast
(publish date: 22 November 2022) Speaking with Caroline Chénier about multiple lovers, Polyamory and how mainstream media often gets it wrong.
Roy speaking at the Temples of Eros social
The conscious sexuality community in London invited me to speak about Expansive Relationships. The recording of my short talk is below. It was followed by a lengthy Q&A session which I did not record, to preserve confidentiality. Open Relating is not, contrary to what some people ask me, about open relationships. Instead, it’s a path …
A reflection on the common refrain ‘I barely have time for one partner, let alone multiple’
Do people who practice polyamory just have loads more free time? I hear variations of this argument a lot, from monogamous people: I barely have time to be with one partner, how can I possibly manage several partners? or It’s already totally draining to spend time with my husband, why would I want to add …
Audio: Roy guest on the Secrets of Sex podcast
(published date: 3 August 2022) Speaking with Cassidy about the misconceptions of Polyamory in the mainstream mindset and how we can change that. From the episode description: Today I speak to Roy Graff, founder of openrelating.love & co-founder of Polyamory Day. Roy offers lived experience based therapy to his clients, he is also trained in …
What does it mean ‘to seek balance’?
In the default, mono-normative relationship model, wanting a balanced relationship means both partners put in the effort and enjoy the rewards of the relationship equally. Clearly, balance is not inherent to relationships and is not always desirable to either partner. So long as there is a clear, consensual agreement between all parties, it is generally …
The OPP rule
Or to make it gender-neutral, the O.G.P rule (one genital policy) To the uninitiated, here is what it means: A one penis/vagina policy refers to when a one or both people in a couple insist on an agreement that limits their partner in who they could have sex with. In heterosexual couples, it means my …
Solo-polyamory as a journey of self-discovery
What is solo-polyamory? A custom designed relationship dynamic that centres my relationship with myself. I am making a conscious decision not to seek out or work towards having a primary and/or nesting partner. Each person may practice solo-polyamory differently and the only constant is that you have a primary relationship with self. Materially, I am …
Audio: Roy interviewed by Rebecca Lowrie on the Sexual Alchemy Podcast
(published date: 9 May 2022) I had an amazing time speaking with Rebecca Lowrie on her podcast. The body is better at telling us what is authentic, than the mind. The mind spins stories which can lead to emotions being created. These stories are sometimes based on old narratives and beliefs that no longer serve …
Video: Roy on the Elizabeth Cunningham show – Solo Polyamory and challenging relationship hierarchy
Solo-polyamory was a pathway to realise why it is important to challenge hierarchies in relationships. It’s available as a podcast as well:
What does my ‘safe space’ represent?
What are we actually after when we define our room/house as a ‘safe space’ boundary? Safe spaces are a hot topic with multigamous/polyamorous people, especially when it is a couple that opened up their relationship. “My room is my sanctuary” “I don’t want a stranger in my bed” “We have kids so no outside partners …