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How can I self-regulate when my partner is on a date?

If you struggle emotionally when your partner is out on a date, here are some practical tips for self regulating when jealous feelings come up. This was a great topic of discussion in the recent Open Relating Coaching Club so I thought I will collect what we talked about and turn it into a short …

Jealousy part 4: Navigating our emotional landscape

Feelings are crucial data for us. We need to allow them to move through us. Not suppress, not explode, but channel them so we can observe and learn. What if rather than saying “I am jealous”, I choose to say “I am lacking something that is causing me insecurity”? This then paves the way to …

Audio: Roy guest speaking on the Single Parents Podcast

(published date: 23 November 2021) I had a great time speaking with Julia Kotziamani on her podcast. From the episode description: When you find yourself a single parent, it can be a really exciting time to forge a new path for you and your family. Lots of us find ourselves questioning our long-held beliefs about …

Video: Roy returning to the Practicing Polyamory podcast (6 October 2021)

Solo-polaymory, non-hierarchical polyamory or just dating around… What’s the difference? I return to the Practicing Polyamory podcast, available on Youtube and as an audio download. I will talk about my own solo-polyamory relationship dynamic and how it is often gets confused with non-hierarchical polyamory as well as ‘dating around’, ‘playing the field’, or not wanting …

“I don’t want to share you”

When your partner says they want to open up the relationship to date other people, and your response is ‘I can’t share you’, what’s really going on? It might sound strange to hear, when your feelings are so strongly indicating that this suggestion from your partner means you have to ‘share’ them, but – Sharing …

Audio: Interview with Roy on Radio WRUU Savannah

(original broadcast 21 Sep. 21) This radio station reached out to me to ask questions about polyamory and non-monogamy. The questions are intended to introduce the concept to people who may not know much about these topics, and accordingly, I try to give a broad definition as well as talking about my personal lived experience. …