Expansive Relationships with an Abundance Mindset
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My IG Live with @decolonizing.love, talking about commitment, attachment, hierarchy, couple’s privilege and masculinity in polyamory. We covered so much. Starts at the 2-minute mark. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Open Relating, expansive relationships coach (@openrelating)
Is hierarchy good or bad? This question was inspired by one of my partners who saw an Instagram post portraying hierarchy in polyamory as something that is always inherently unethical, and rooted in colonialism. ​The account in question​ (@decolonizing.love) is dedicated to giving voice to marginalised communities within polyamory and in a broader sense, and …
The journey I embarked on included learning that my value doesn’t come from how desirable I am or how desired I can make my partner feel at all times. From the time I felt I was an adult, I have tried to be conscious about the work I needed to do on myself in order …
The rise of fascism, families and relationships The rise of fascistic policies and leaders around the world (thinking of traditionally Western democratic countries like US, Italy, Sweden, Israel) is, I believe, a direct result of patterns of dictatorship and fascism being normalised in family life. When children are raised in families that do not give …
Do people who practice polyamory just have loads more free time? I hear variations of this argument a lot, from monogamous people: I barely have time to be with one partner, how can I possibly manage several partners? or It’s already totally draining to spend time with my husband, why would I want to add …
In Polyamory, I talk about doing the work to own my emotions, self-regulate and find safety. I look to find security and happiness in myself first. I examine to what degrees I can meet my own needs, before looking to others to meet them. From this mindset, a boundary means to me something I create …
My IG Live with @Irene_morning about our polyamory origins, needing more public role models and her process of writing a book about her journey. View this post on Instagram A post shared by OpenRelating Coach (@openrelating)
Something that comes up loads in polyamory discussion threads, is the concept of the ‘Unicorn’. It is a hot topic that carries strong opinions and often draws the ire of many polyamorous communities. For newbies, most often, a ‘unicorn’ is thought of as a bisexual woman who joins an established heterosexual couple and is equally …
A red flag means the alert that goes off, when you notice someone is behaving in a way that raises questions about how they might behave in a relationship with you, or saying things that raise suspicion of later toxic behaviour. Most red flags are common to all relationship types and dynamics, be it monogamy …
If I ask you what your personal boundaries are, would you be able to tell me right away, without sinking into an existential crisis at the magnitude of the question? Until I discovered polyamory and spent a few years figuring it out, I never once stopped to think that I should have clearly defined, self-affirming …