Video: Roy on the Elizabeth Cunningham show – Solo Polyamory and challenging relationship hierarchy
Solo-polyamory was a pathway to realise why it is important to challenge hierarchies in relationships. It’s available as a podcast as well:
What does my ‘safe space’ represent?
What are we actually after when we define our room/house as a ‘safe space’ boundary? Safe spaces are a hot topic with multigamous/polyamorous people, especially when it is a couple that opened up their relationship. “My room is my sanctuary” “I don’t want a stranger in my bed” “We have kids so no outside partners …
Why are boundaries so difficult to figure out?
In Polyamory, I talk about doing the work to own my emotions, self-regulate and find safety. I look to find security and happiness in myself first. I examine to what degrees I can meet my own needs, before looking to others to meet them. From this mindset, a boundary means to me something I create …
What is Couple’s Privilege?
How will society accept the philosophy behind polyamory, so long as couple’s privilege persists? What is it?Couple’s privilege is the largely unchallenged mainstream acceptance, of the inherent importance and supremacy of a dyad relationship (mostly exclusive and primarily between a woman and a man).Couple’s privilege is introduced to us throughout our lives from birth, through …
How can I self-regulate when my partner is on a date?
If you struggle emotionally when your partner is out on a date, here are some practical tips for self regulating when jealous feelings come up. This was a great topic of discussion in the recent Open Relating Coaching Club so I thought I will collect what we talked about and turn it into a short …
Our emotional landscape can teach us so much about our body, thoughts and actions
Feelings are crucial data for us. We need to allow them to move through us. Not suppress, not explode, but channel them so we can observe and learn. What if rather than saying “I am jealous”, I choose to say “I am lacking something that is causing me insecurity”? This then paves the way to …
Video/Audio: Roy and Leanne @polyphiliablog deep dive
I sat down for an hour long conversation with Leanne, a social media content creator who is an advocate for Polyamory on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Subscribe to the entire podcast series of 14 episodes here. Polyamory challenges traditional love and many societal norms, but one aspect that is not often talked about is …
Looking back at my monogamous life with a polyamorous mindset
I have lived most of my life in a monogamous mindset with no awareness of alternative options From my earliest dating experiences around age 14, it was always the accepted, default assumption that I can only date one person at a time. If I developed feelings for a new person, that would mean I had …
Speaking at Evolve Fest, December 3-7
I am so excited to be presenting at EVOLVE FEST, a 5-day GLOBAL online journey of love, transformation and togetherness! You can catch me delivering: From scarcity to abundance, a relationship mindset 7 Dec, 2021 Click here to book and quote code ROY25 for your discounted ticket. For one incredibly low ticket price you will …
The Capitalist model of Romance
…the capitalist urge to get you to think of romance in terms of capital investment, finite resources and ‘growth’. Capitalism is defined by its reliance on the private sector to deliver what the market needs, urged by the profit motive. In theoretical, pure capitalism, the ‘invisible hand’ directs market actors to invest as needed in …