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Is Polyamory an Orientation or an Adaptation?

Polyamory as a call to Self The exploration of alternative relationship dynamics beyond Monogamy has increased dramatically in Western societies in recent years. While Monogamy has been the default and traditional way of relating for romance and sex in modern history, there have throughout history, been people who challenged the norm and human evolution contains …

Glossary of terms for expansive relationships

This is an ever evolving glossary of terms that are used in expansive relationships. This includes conscious monogamy, multigamy (non-monogamy), singledom and other dynamics. Click on a term to expand and read about it. If you are looking for a term that you cannot find here, please submit it via the contact form. A B …

Love

About LOVE

Being directed from a place of love means holding abundance in your heart. Love feels different to different people, and we cannot judge how another person feels love, based on how we feel it. But to me, there is a deeper truth. One thing that often gets overlooked, even in non-monogamous relationships, is that love …

Seeking Balance

What does it mean ‘to seek balance’?

In the default, mono-normative relationship model, wanting a balanced relationship means both partners put in the effort and enjoy the rewards of the relationship equally. Clearly, balance is not inherent to relationships and is not always desirable to either partner. So long as there is a clear, consensual agreement between all parties, it is generally …

The OPP Rule

The OPP rule

Or to make it gender-neutral, the O.G.P rule (one genital policy) To the uninitiated, here is what it means: A one penis/vagina policy refers to when a one or both people in a couple insist on an agreement that limits their partner in who they could have sex with. In heterosexual couples, it means my …

Solo-polyamory as a journey of self-discovery

What is solo-polyamory? A custom designed relationship dynamic that centres my relationship with myself. I am making a conscious decision not to seek out or work towards having a primary and/or nesting partner. Each person may practice solo-polyamory differently and the only constant is that you have a primary relationship with self. Materially, I am …

Relationship Confessions – anonymous

If you could say anything to your partner without fear of hurting them, or fear they will reject you, what would you say? If you could ask for anything of the person you most want to be with, when all obstacles were removed, what would it be? I am collecting anonymous shares from people who …

What does my ‘safe space’ represent?

What are we actually after when we define our room/house as a ‘safe space’ boundary? Safe spaces are a hot topic with multigamous/polyamorous people, especially when it is a couple that opened up their relationship. “My room is my sanctuary” “I don’t want a stranger in my bed” “We have kids so no outside partners …

Boundaries

Why are boundaries so difficult to figure out?

In Polyamory, I talk about doing the work to own my emotions, self-regulate and find safety. I look to find security and happiness in myself first. I examine to what degrees I can meet my own needs, before looking to others to meet them. From this mindset, a boundary means to me something I create …