Roy Graff

Relationship Coach & Counsellor

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Welcome to Open Relating

Open Relating means creating and maintaining conscious, connected, autonomous, expansive relationships, regardless of how many people are involved and what consensual agreements are made. Doing so requires an honest unflinching look at our own vulnerabilities, fears, needs, wants and desires.

My name is Roy, I'm a relationship coach and counsellor, and offer support and guidance to individuals and partnered people both online and in-person. I use a variety of methodologies from my training along with extensive lived experience as a multilingual and multicultural global citizen.

I offer coaching and counselling following the Psychosynthesis modality, and am accredited by NCPS. My support to you is based on lived experience, a great deal of self-experimentation, exploration, a range of educational courses and 7+ years of running workshops and facilitating groups. I have additional training in Radical Honesty, Non-violent Communication and Wheel of Consent.

To get started, use the navigation bar above to book a session with me, join the monthly peer support or watch one of my pre-recorded workshops.

The resources section has a wealth of free content for education and insights, including an exhaustive glossary, free podcasts and videos and an archive of articles about relationships.

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Coaching

Relationship success varies, depending on who you are, what beliefs you have and how much autonomy you need. The relationship escalator may work for some, but for many, it doesn't. I am interested in you, and what is the best outcome for you. My coaching is for individuals and partnered people.

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Counselling

I am a qualified and accredited counsellor, trained with the Institute of Psychosynthesis. Counselling is helpful for working with persistent issues of self-esteem, insecurity, depression or motivation. If you are struggling emotionally, and are looking for an open minded, understanding and trauma-informed counsellor, I'm here for you.

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Workshops and Talks

You can join the next workshop or watch pre-recorded talks about relationship dynamics, jealousy, compersion and related topics.
More videos are added on a regular basis.
Some are available for a small price, while many are free.

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Latest articles

Video: Polyamorous Evolutions with Susan Bratton

Video 1: What is Relationship Anarchy—And Could It Transform Your Love Life? In this episode of Polyamorous Evolutions, relationship coach Roy Graff joins intimacy expert Susan Bratton for a candid, mind-expanding conversation on Relationship Anarchy—what it really means, how it differs from other non-monogamous frameworks, and why it might just be the freedom your relationships …

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Audio: Roy returns to the Authentic Man podcast (ep. 225)

Podcast release date 28 May 2025 I was glad to be invited back to speak with David Chambers of the Authentic Man podcast. Thinking about opening your relationship? Watch this first. In this powerful and eye-opening conversation, relationship therapist and polyamory coach Roy Graff joins David Chambers to unpack what truly needs to happen before …

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Mix Nashville Podcast (10 December 2024)

(publish date: 10 December 2024) “This month, we’re speaking to Roy Graff of Open Relating. Roy is both a peer support coach and a licensed therapist in the UK, where he resides and practices. In addition to providing clinical therapy services, Roy creates content on Instagram and Threads discussing the challenges non-monogamists face, and providing practical solutions and tips for …

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