Hi, I am Roy.

Open Relating is not just my practice. It is my view of the world and all human relationships.

I offer coaching to individuals, couples and polycules. I can help with relationship issues, honesty and authenticity in relating, life transformation and major life crises.

My support is offered as a mentor, consultant and coach. I use a variety of methodologies I am trained in, along with my extensive lived experience, to best support you with your journey.

I am not a qualified therapist (am in psychotherapy training). My support to you is based on lived experience, a great deal of self experimentation, exploration, a range of educational courses and 7+ years of running workshops and facilitating groups.

In 2021 I launched a course on creating an abundance mindset, that helps people challenge their preconceptions and inherited beliefs, to build authentic relationships.

My recorded workshops and webinars are available for free or for a small fee.

I have had a varied career in business development and marketing for 20+ years, living on different continents and collecting many life experiences. I have lived in Europe, the Middle East, North America and Asia.

My first 20 years adulting were unconsciously monogamous by default. I was in several long term relationships including a marriage, and also became a father.

I briefly (and rather ignorantly) experimented with an open marriage and long distance non-monogamy, which unsurprisingly, considering my lack of experience and knowledge, didn’t work out. 

Then a personal and financial crisis in 2010, forced me to completely re-evaluate my life and values, go through therapy and dig deep inside for selfawareness and self-love. 

I was introduced to consensual non-monogamy in 2011, and have identified as polyamorous since, experiencing a wide variety of relationship dynamics in the spectra of multigamy. I have assimilated knowledge from diverse sources and, most importantly, have made my own mistakes, and learnt a great deal from them. 

In the aftermath of the Covid-19 pandemic, these experiences led me to train in psychotherapy following the Psychosynthesis modality, and formalise what had been a hobby since 2014. I’ve been giving talks, facilitating discussions and holding workshops about non-monogamy, sex positivity, consent and kink to audiences of up to 300 people. 

I draw on my training modality, Radical Honesty, Non-violent Communication as well as Burning Man values.  I offer coaching and mentoring to individuals, couples and polycules. I can help you with relationship issues, honesty and authenticity in relating, life transformation and major life crises. 

I run a London-based non-monogamous men’s support group and moderate several Facebook groups related to sex positivity and polyamory.

This song really resonates with me, I invite you to listen to the lyrics and enjoy.

My focus is on open, conscious communication and empowering people to build autonomous, connected, interdependent relationships. Book a free appointment with me today.

Read my latest blog articles

  • Looking back at my monogamous life with a polyamorous mindset
    I have lived most of my life in a monogamous mindset with no awareness of alternative options From my earliest dating experiences around age 14, it was always the accepted, default assumption that I can only date one person at a time. If I developed feelings for a new person, that would mean I had …
  • Speaking at Evolve Fest, December 3-7
    I am so excited to be presenting at EVOLVE FEST, a 5-day GLOBAL online journey of love, transformation and togetherness! You can catch me delivering: From scarcity to abundance, a relationship mindset 7 Dec, 2021 Click here to book and quote code ROY25 for your discounted ticket. For one incredibly low ticket price you will …
  • Audio: Roy guest speaking on the Single Parents Podcast
    (published date: 23 November 2021) I had a great time speaking with Julia Kotziamani on her podcast. From the episode description: When you find yourself a single parent, it can be a really exciting time to forge a new path for you and your family. Lots of us find ourselves questioning our long-held beliefs about …
  • The Capitalist model of Romance
    …the capitalist urge to get you to think of romance in terms of capital investment, finite resources and ‘growth’. Capitalism is defined by its reliance on the private sector to deliver what the market needs, urged by the profit motive. In theoretical, pure capitalism, the ‘invisible hand’ directs market actors to invest as needed in …
  • Video: Roy returning to the Practicing Polyamory podcast (6 October 2021)
    Solo-polymory, non-hierarchical polyamory or just dating around… What’s the difference? I return to the Practicing Polyamory podcast, available on Youtube and as an audio download. I will talk about my own solo-polyamory relationship dynamic and how it is often gets confused with non-hierarchical polyamory as well as ‘dating around’, ‘playing the field’, or not wanting …