Roy Graff

Relationship Coach & Counsellor

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Welcome to Open Relating

Open Relating means creating and maintaining conscious, connected, autonomous, expansive relationships, regardless of how many people are involved and what consensual agreements are made. Doing so requires an honest unflinching look at our own vulnerabilities, fears, needs, wants and desires.

My name is Roy, I'm a relationship coach and counsellor, and offer support and guidance to individuals and partnered people both online and in-person. I use a variety of methodologies from my training along with extensive lived experience as a multilingual and multicultural global citizen.

I offer coaching and counselling following the Psychosynthesis modality, and am accredited by NCPS. My support to you is based on lived experience, a great deal of self-experimentation, exploration, a range of educational courses and 7+ years of running workshops and facilitating groups. I have additional training in Radical Honesty, Non-violent Communication and Wheel of Consent.

To get started, use the navigation bar above to book a session with me, join the monthly peer support or watch one of my pre-recorded workshops.

The resources section has a wealth of free content for education and insights, including an exhaustive glossary, free podcasts and videos and an archive of articles about relationships.

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Relationship success varies, depending on who you are, what beliefs you have and how much autonomy you need. The relationship escalator may work for some, but for many, it doesn't. I am interested in you, and what is the best outcome for you. My coaching is for individuals and partnered people.

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I am a qualified and accredited counsellor, trained with the Institute of Psychosynthesis. Counselling is helpful for working with persistent issues of self-esteem, insecurity, depression or motivation. If you are struggling emotionally, and are looking for an open minded, understanding and trauma-informed counsellor, I'm here for you.

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Workshops and Talks

You can join the next workshop or watch pre-recorded talks about relationship dynamics, jealousy, compersion and related topics.
More videos are added on a regular basis.
Some are available for a small price, while many are free.
I offer monthly online group peer support for a low fee.

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Latest articles

Video: on the @nonconventional podcast – 20 June

This is a 27 minute long podcast interview with Ela from @nonconventional. Navigating the complexities of polyamorous relationships, Roy Graff shares his journey from monogamy to polyamory, shedding light on the emotional dynamics and the importance of communication. With a candid discussion on managing multiple partners and the misconceptions around polyamory, this video explores how …

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Polyamory can never work because…

What follows are statements I’ve personally heard from people who have had something they really wanted to say about polyamory, even if they had never tried it or had wanted to. These criticisms mainly serve to show up a personal bias, ignorance or perhaps unresolved trauma. – “it’s just lack of commitment” Do all monogamous …

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