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Noticing red flags in alternative relationships

A red flag means the alert that goes off, when you notice someone is behaving in a way that raises questions about how they might behave in a relationship with you, or saying things that raise suspicion of later toxic behaviour. Most red flags are common to all relationship types and dynamics, be it monogamy …

How lack of boundaries harmed me

If I ask you what your personal boundaries are, would you be able to tell me right away, without sinking into an existential crisis at the magnitude of the question? Until I discovered polyamory and spent a few years figuring it out, I never once stopped to think that I should have clearly defined, self-affirming …

Multigamy – the what, how and why?

Over time, I have gradually become slightly annoyed with people using the terms monogamy (implied ethics and consent) and non-monogamy (implied unethical so must be prefixed with consensual- or ethical-), as two directly opposing relationship dynamics. I believe it’s time to upend this narrative, redefine the norm and see relationship dynamics as existing on a …