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Do we expect too much from one partner? Rethinking the monogamy model.

Do we expect too much from one partner? Rethinking the Monogamy model.

Many people grow up believing their partner should be everything: best friend, emotional support, lover, confidant and life planner. But what if expecting one person to meet all our needs is unrealistic? This article explores how polyamory and multigamy challenge this idea, and how releasing these expectations can create healthier, more spacious relationships.

Video: Polyamorous Evolutions with Susan Bratton

Video 1: What is Relationship Anarchy—And Could It Transform Your Love Life? In this episode of Polyamorous Evolutions, relationship coach Roy Graff joins intimacy expert Susan Bratton for a candid, mind-expanding conversation on Relationship Anarchy—what it really means, how it differs from other non-monogamous frameworks, and why it might just be the freedom your relationships …

Mix Nashville Podcast (10 December 2024)

(publish date: 10 December 2024) “This month, we’re speaking to Roy Graff of Open Relating. Roy is both a peer support coach and a licensed therapist in the UK, where he resides and practices. In addition to providing clinical therapy services, Roy creates content on Instagram and Threads discussing the challenges non-monogamists face, and providing practical solutions and tips for …

We grow from 'failing' in relationships

We grow from ‘failing’ in relationships

A friend said to me something that sparked a thought. She said that she’s exploring polyamory now because she kept ‘failing’ at monogamy. I think that our collective social understanding of relationships failing, is that they are short lasting, end in acrimony or when only one party to the relationship wants to stay in it. …

Are you monogamous? or...

Are you monogamous? Or….

Are you just stuck with the inherited mindset that monogamy is the default choice? Or are you just afraid you will die alone because you haven’t invested in creating a supportive community for yourself? Or are you just scared of opening up your heart to more intimacy and being vulnerable with other people than just …

Are you polyamorous? or...

Are you polyamorous? Or….

Do you suffer from low self esteem and can’t believe anyone will want to date you monogamously, since surely they will want to get some of their needs met elsewhere? Or are you just desperate for validation and ego stroking from multiple people? Or are you just afraid to commit fully and think that by …

Is Hierarchy good or bad?

Inter-relationship power dynamics in multigamy

Is hierarchy good or bad? This question was inspired by one of my partners who saw an Instagram post portraying hierarchy in polyamory as something that is always inherently unethical, and rooted in colonialism. ​The account in question​ (@decolonizing.love) is dedicated to giving voice to marginalised communities within polyamory and in a broader sense, and …

What to think about when opening up a monogamous relationship

As a relationship coach, I regularly work with couples who come to me at various stages of their journey into multigamy* (non-monogamy) with challenges, seemingly impossible conflicts, resentment and triggered fears. It is rare to meet a couple that book to work with me immediately a the start of their opening-up exploration, but it does …