"Other than my nesting partner, I'm unsure about how to talk to my other partners about each other"

Question

My question is, how much do I disclose to other partners, so not my nesting partner, but other people that I see, some of which are quite casual. Some are more than casual.

They know that I see other people, but they don’t know like how often or what those relationship types are, etc. And although I’m relatively comfortable and okay communicating with my nesting partner about plans and and and connections with other people. I’m less sure about how to talk to my other partners about each other.

Answer

Since you are already transparent about having a nesting partner and seeing other people, the level of details that would be shared with each person you are seeing is a matter of discussion and consent. You have your own comfort level of what information you are happy sharing as well as the details you would like to know about the person you are dating, to feel secure and comfortable. In addition, each person has their own boundaries around privacy as well as needing the consent of the people they are seeing, to share information with others.

Sounds complex, right? It doesn’t have to be.

To practice multigamy consensually and ethically, transparency and honesty are vital.

Start with yourself:

Consider what you would be comfortable sharing, and what you would like to know. Ask yourself why it is important to know certain details. Is it about personal health and safety? time management? or a need to feel in control?

Then offer to the other person a choice, up to your own limits of information sharing. Do you want to know how many people I am seeing? Who are they? or perhaps just enough to know when I am available to you? Then ask them, what would you be open to share with me about your relationships?

There are some key information points that are important to share as part of this discussion, once you know you have an ongoing connection.