Podcast release date 19 August 2025
Welcome to Episode 452 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Roy Graff who speaks to me about relationship anarchy, consensual non-monogamy, and the importance of communication in alternative relationship structures.
In this episode, Roy shares his deeply personal journey from decades of serial monogamy to embracing polyamory as an orientation and ultimately finding resonance in the philosophy of relationship anarchy. We explore the difference between open relationships and ethical non-monogamy, the role of emotional maturity, and how boundaries and communication can transform romantic connections.
Roy Graff is a Psychosynthesis Relationship Counsellor based in London, UK. Drawing on his training and over nine years of experience facilitating workshops and group work, Roy supports clients in exploring the full spectrum of their physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions. His practice is inclusive and affirming of Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), welcoming LGBTQ+ individuals and those in non-monogamous relationships. In addition to his counselling work, Roy is a relationship coach specializing in alternative and non-traditional relationship dynamics, helping individuals and partners build resilience, improve communication, manage conflict, and deepen empathetic, conscious connections.
In this episode, you will hear:
· Roy’s Journey From Serial Monogamy To Polyamory
· How Relationship Anarchy Challenges Social Norms
· The Difference Between Ethical And Unethical Non-Monogamy
· Why Communication Is The Foundation Of Alternative Relationships
· Navigating Jealousy And Emotional Triggers
· The Role Of Boundaries In Polyamorous Dynamics
· Strategies For Sharing Information About Other Partners
· Understanding The “Relationship Escalator”
· How Solo Polyamory Works In Practice
