Solo-Polyamory Day 2025

What is solo-polyamory?

It is a custom-designed relationship dynamic that centres my relationship with myself. I am making a conscious decision not to seek out or work towards having a primary and/or nesting partner. Each person may practice solo-polyamory differently and the only constant is that you have a primary relationship with self.

Materially, I am self-sufficient and choose to live alone. I make time for myself, my family and friends as well as to my romantic and sexual relationships. I do not seek hierarchy and do not elevate some relationships over others based on whether they are romantic or involving sex. There can be a natural preference emerging for quality time, based on who I enjoy spending time with, the quality of the activities we enjoy and the time that we have available to spend together.

While it is possible to self-define as solo-polyamorous while cohabitating with a romantic partner, this requires very good communication skills, defined boundaries and great self-regulation capabilities.

For this Solo-Polyamory Day, I have put together a list of resources that will help the curious and exploring to make sense of this dynamic, consider if it’s right for you and help you navigate some of the complexities, as well as how to navigate societal stigma and misunderstandings. At the end of the page, I also offer a chance to win a free coaching session with me, and to watch the recorded conversation that Ro Moëd and I had for a previous solo-polyamory day. We meet again on 24 September, 2025 for an Instagram Live conversation.

Articles about solo-polyamory

• My own journey into solo-polyamory and self-discovery
• Relationship Anarchy and Solo-Polyamory on Huffington Post

Videos about solo-polyamory

• IG Live with Ro Moëd and Roy Graff for Solo-Polyamory Day 2025 (coming soon)
• Solo-Polyamory, a conversation between Ro Moëd and Roy Graff (free with code solopoly25)
• How coaching can help your own journey in polyamory
• My interview with Mel Cassidy @radicalrelating for Solo-Polyamory Day 2023
• My interview with Elizabeth Cunningham on solo-polyamory and challenging relationship hierarchy

Podcasts

• The poly podcast with Siobhan and Richard
• Solo-polyamory, non-hierarchical polyamory or just dating around… What’s the difference?

Free Coaching on Solo-Polyamory (or other issues)

Have a chance to win a free full coaching session with me (worth £110). I offer up to 2 free coaching sessions each month. To enter, please complete the below form and submit your entry. You will also be added to my monthly newsletter mailing list.