Learning to have healthy relationship boundaries – a critical skill

This is an online, interactive, consent-focused workshop that offers learning and practice.

Having clear and definable boundaries is critical to healthy relationships of any kind. To get there, we need to be honest with ourselves about what our values, needs and wants are.

Healthy boundaries in relationships act as:

• A crucial protection of your own needs, &…
• An invitation to your partner to come towards, and build greater intimacy with you.

It’s true that inn non-monogamous relationships, there is a greater call for autonomy and agency of each partner. At the same time, our society promotes a relationship ethos that glorifies monogamous codependency, which results in unhealthy attachment and a model of ownership over our partner. This is evident in socially accepted ideas such as ‘sharing my partner’, ‘I belong to you’, ‘you complete me’, ‘you owe me’ etc.

Boundaries are intimately interlinked with consent and are important whether you are monogamous or multigamous (non-monogamous).

In this workshop, we will explore together, how existing social power structures have a major impact on our mental health, mindsets and ability to create, uphold and communicate healthy boundaries for ourselves, in important relationships. By understanding and unpacking power dynamics, privileges and hierarchies we can address and confront the imbalances and change our mindset to one that is collaborative, empathetic and abundant.

• Do you know what your boundaries are?
• Do you know how consent feels in your body?
• Can you notice when someone else’s boundaries are being crossed when they don’t tell you?

Consent is not only about getting a ‘yes’ or accepting a ‘no’. It is about growing our empathy and connecting authentically with another. This workshop is designed for people who want to get practice with boundaries and consent in intimate interactions, including non-monogamous and sex positive spaces. We will explore different tools for discovering and expressing our boundaries and consent, how they feel in the body, and how to navigate situations when you’re not sure. We’ll also talk about the factors that may impact your boundaries at different times.

This workshop will help you to:

• Feel more comfortable interacting with others and expressing your needs openly
• Understand how to track your own boundaries and get more comfortable expressing them
• Experiment with the verbal and non-verbal communication to make any intimate interaction more smooth and enjoyable for all parties involved
• Encourage more autonomy and agency in your relationships

The workshop welcomes people of all genders, neurotypes, ethnicities, and sexual orientations.

Please note that I have a few low income tickets available. please only choose that option if you need it.

About the facilitator:

Roy Graff (he/him) is a life and relationship coach who draws on his training in Psychosynthesis Psychotherapy, Radical Honesty, Non-violent Communication and Wheel of Consent training to offer coaching and mentoring to individuals, couples and polycules. He completed the Like a Pro Wheel of Consent training with Betty Martin in 2022 and has given consent workshops and conscious play fighting workshops in different cities and at different festivals and retreats. Roy has an MA in Psychosynthesis Psychology and is a licensed Psychotherapeutic Counsellor.